Throughout my many years of personal development journey, I have finally realized how important it is to truly understand and practice proper communication.  Communication on average isn't taught by parents, other family members, friends, religious groups, and even our public schooling system doesn't do well teaching communication.  Personally, I first came to the realization of the importance of communication after reading a book titled "Straight talk for men about marriage".  Then I started to read various Psychology Today magazines that talked about communication.  Once I got into the deep studying of the subconscious mind, that is when I focused on using my own audio subliminals to program my subconscious mind for proper communication.

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If you think about it, communication is necessary as long as it involves other people in one way or another.  Our text messages, social media posts, our Youtube videos and comments, communicating with our loved ones and coworkers, etc.  With that said, if we are to be in communication daily with other people, doesn't it make perfect sense to focus on improving our own communication skills?  Believe it or not, most people fail to truly understand the importance of communication, or desire to focus on improving their own communication skills.

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THINGS YOU MUST UNDERSTAND 1ST

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Well, there are some basic things of communication you must understand first and foremost.  The aspects of ourselves that are most important regarding communication are our mind and our brain.  It is important for both to be as fully functional, and in alignment with each other as possible for effective and efficient communication with other people.

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What is the mind?

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I personally love Wikipedia's definition of the mind.  Wiki Mind Definition: The mind is the set of faculties including cognitive aspects such as consciousness, imagination, perception, thinking, intelligence, judgment, language, and memory, as well as noncognitive aspects such as emotion and instinct.  Throughout my own experience, study, and analysis of the mind, I have noticed that various scientists, psychologists, and others, often describe the mind AS the brain.  Which in actuality, they are 2 separate mechanisms.

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My own definition of the mind is: it is our own private interface that is connected to our soul (spiritual self), the Universe (Quantum field/Spiritual realm), and everything and everyone contained within life itself.  Including and especially our own brain and body.

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When it comes to our mind, beliefs are essential!  Our beliefs (which I sometimes call programs) are responsible for our own behavior, perceptions, and what we attract into or repel out of our life experience.  Whatever we deeply believe, that is what we will perceive and have within our life.  If you want to examine your own beliefs, then think about what you currently have, and have been experiencing within your life consistently.  Also, think about what you don't have and HAVEN'T been experiencing that you want to have and experience.  Both sides are the results of your own beliefs.

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Without beliefs, we wouldn't be able to have a life experience at all!

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Communication and the mind

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Being articulate starts within the mind and then the brain.  Throughout my many years of my personal development journey, and while studying the subconscious mind, I have learned the importance of obtaining the appropriate beliefs for communication.  The proper communication beliefs allow us to be able to understand proper communication and how to do it.  What I have also learned is that here in America, and some other countries similar to it, there are various aspects of the media that actually distort a person's ability to communicate well.

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Ex: a few years back, I decided to watch a popular American TV show here titled "Friends" for study purposes.  I decided to watch only a few of the first episodes of the first season.  Just within the first few minutes of viewing the first episode, I IMMEDIATELY identified so many "Social violations".  My own definition of social violation: Social violation: Something someone commits during an interaction with one or more people that negatively disrupts the proper communication flow of the interaction.  A social violation can actually offend other people it has been done to.

 

The top social violation I identified in the first episode is how often the characters interrupted each other during their conversations!  That is a HUGE no-no within a social engagement!  For proper communication, one of the very basic rules is to ALWAYS ALLOW the other person to completely finish what they have to say!  That is fair for all individuals involved in the social engagement.  Once they are done speaking, allow the information to process and think about what they said while doing your best to see things from THEIR point of view!

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What occurs often with many people, instead of practicing ACTIVE listening, while the other person is speaking, they are actually thinking about what to say next!  Another HUGE NO-NO!  Active listening vs hearing are 2 separate things.  Active listening deals with the mind and brain.  You as the listener are to be focusing on various aspects of the person's speech.  Their tone of voice, mannerisms if in person or on a video chat with them, their words, etc. 

 

Hearing is when you are with the person psychologically and/or physically to a certain extent, but your mind is elsewhere in one way or the other.  You aren't in the full present moment of the social engagement.  The latter explains a lot of people here in America.

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What occurs often, if a person fails to learn proper communication somehow someway, they will more than likely pick up various bad habits of communication from their society (family, media, etc).

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Communication and the brain

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The brain is the physical aspect of ourselves that is also tied to our overall behavior.  The brain deals with more physical aspects of ourselves and life, and the mind deals with more non-physical aspects.   The brain is a physical organ that is located within our head that is connected to our entire body through the body's nervous system and spine.  It is the "central control station", or "Dispatch station" that sends various amounts of information to the rest of the body for various reasons.

 

It also deals with the other aspects of the wiki definition of the mind.   Including cognitive aspects such as consciousness, imagination, perception, thinking, intelligence, judgment, language, and memory, as well as noncognitive aspects such as emotion and instinct.

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When it comes to communication and the brain, consciousness, perception, thinking, intelligence, language, memory, and emotions are all important!  These all play a part in one way or another within communication with other people.  Having proper communication beliefs programs these aspects of our brain to function appropriately for proper communication.  Along with proper eating habits!

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What the brain needs most

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From observing and analyzing my own life experience with my own brain, and also studying with books and viewing various documentaries, I have learned what the brain needs.  For proper functionality of the brain to provide us an adequate performance for life in general and especially communication, it needs 1.) Energy.  The brain is just like an electronic that needs the energy to function.  2.) Oxygen and proper blood circulation.  This helps distribute proper nutrients throughout the brain.  3.) Water, WATER, WATER!  This is one I had to learn the hard way throughout my childhood and it took MANY years into my adulthood to finally get it.  Water does so much for our brain and body in general.  It is needed to do various things including keeping it lubricated to function appropriately.  It is to literally bathe in water.  Headaches and migraines largely come from dehydration. 

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Our body naturally creates its own nutrients and hormones in order to keep itself healthy.  The daily eating habits that we are taught within our society here in America and various other countries greatly depletes the body's self-generated nutrients and hormones.  This is why there are a lot of sick, overweight, and tired people.  I have learned from personal experience that fasting (intermittent fasting also) from eating and drinking the various toxic foods and drinks greatly helps improve the overall health of the body.  I am now able to have a great amount of energy and mental clarity throughout my day.  Having a toxic and unhealthy brain and body prevents us from having proper communication and peaceful relationships with other people.

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In closing

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To sum this all up, regarding communication, the top things to focus on most first and foremost, are your mind and brain.  The condition they are in, the type of focus you have, and the effort you put forth within social engagements, will dictate if you have successful communication or not.  I highly suggest that you do more studying of the mind and its functions, the brain, and proper communication.  There is tons of information about these on Youtube, within magazines (I love Psychology Today mags!), and books.

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This article was written by Personal Development Consultant

Neo Askuwheteau

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